Archive for July 2015

CI Heroes: Julie Sellner of Mended Hearts


It’s never something she thought she’d do; but a Metamora woman is combining two of her biggest loves in life, all to make life better for others…and it’s making her our CI Hero.


In rural Metamora, healing is happening, in a unique way…


“I feel  like I can really connect with the horses and I can just…anything I want to put out there, I can just put out there,” adds Fitton.


Paige Fitton was having a hard time in school…


“I  started getting bullied at school and got real bad anxiety and depression.”


That’s when she met Julie Sellner.


“I’ve always grown up with horses, I know the effect they can have on people, the positive effects in their lives,” Sellner says.


Julie started her career as a registered nurse, but she felt called to change course.

After getting her license as a professional counselor, she says she found her niche, even more.


“I’ve always grown up with horses; I know the effect they can have on people, the positive effects in their lives,” Sellner adds. “I combined two loves, I combined my love for working with people and my love of horses into doing this.”


The founder of Mended Hearts Therapeutic Center, she helps all kinds of people with traditional counseling, but says certain clients, especially kids, are finding their balance on the back of a horse.


“Horses are a herd animal, so, they are more in tune with what’s going on in ourselves than a lot of times we are,” Sellner adds.


Whether it’s helping them get through a tough moment….

Like helping Ben Lavallee relax, “I feel relaxed while riding a horse and I get to bond with an animal,” he says. “It calms me down, let’s me listen to nature and be in nature.”


Or get through the day…


“It feels great, knowing that I can actually go to school without having an anxiety attack in the middle of class, or I learn how to control it now,” adds Fitton.


This CI Hero believes everyone can learn something, if they just listen to what’s around them.


“I just love everyone that comes out here. I feel they are sent here for a reason, and we just meet them where they’re at,” says Sellner. “My goal is to help them feel better by the time they leave here.”

Teen Bullying

School is about to start back up! Teen bullying is at an all time high in America right now.  Teen bullying is very common and a lot of it happens for kids ages 12-17. It’s very important to make sure your kid/ kids are not being physically or emotionally bullied.

What are some of the effects of teenage bullying?

There are a number of effects that come with teenage bullying. First of all, there are the obvious physical problems and injuries that can result from physical bullying. However, emotional, verbal and cyber bullying can deeply affect teens as well. These activities can lead to depression (and even suicide), drug use and stunted social development. These are problems that can affect a person well into adulthood.

Effects of Bullying

  • appearing sad, moody, or anxious
  • avoiding school
  • withdrawing from social activities
  • experiencing a drop in grades
  • appearing upset after using the computer
  • appearing upset after viewing a text message

Different forms of bullying:

  • Physical Bullying: This is the most obvious form of bullying. In this type of bullying, the instigator attempts to physically dominate another teen. This usually includes kicking, punching and other physically harmful activities, designed to instill fear in the one bullied, and possible coerce him or her to do something.
  • Verbal Bullying: When someone verbally bullies another, he or she uses demeaning language to tear down another’s self-image. Bullies who use verbal techniques excessively tease others, say belittling things and use a great deal of sarcasm with the intent to hurt the other person’s feelings or humiliate the other teen in front of others.
  • Emotional: This is even more subtle than verbal bullying. Teenage bullying that includes emotional methods aims at getting someone else to feel isolated, alone and may even prompt depression. This type of bullying is designed to get others to ostracize the person being bullied.
  • Cyber Bullying: Electronic bullying is becoming a very real problem for teens. This type of bullying uses instant messaging, cell phone text messages and online social networks to humiliate and embarrass others. This can be especially devastating to the people being bullied, since they cannot even find a safe place in the virtual world.

When puberty causes emotional and physical changes, teens can often become unhappy or self-conscious with their appearance. In this program, students will learn what it means to have a positive versus negative body image. The messages young teens receive from their peers, culture and the media about the “perfect body” will be closely examined.

The course will also outline the choices teens have in light of these messages – the choice to accept and be proud of their body, or the choice to change their body by using chemicals, disordered eating, dieting, and cosmetic surgery in order to achieve “perfection.” The positive and negative consequences of each choice will be carefully outlined. Students will end the course by learning five key ingredients to maintaining a healthy body and a positive body image.

Sexual abuse is a particularly sinister type of trauma because of the shame it instills in the victim. With childhood sexual abuse, victims are often too young to know how to express what is happening and seek out help. When not properly treated, this can result in a lifetime of PTSD, depression and anxiety.

The trauma that results from sexual abuse is a syndrome that affects not just the victim and their family, but all of our society. Because sexual abuse, molestation and rape are such shame-filled concepts, our culture tends to suppress information about them.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger because of thoughts of suicide

Please call 911 now

If you are not in the U.S., please call your local emergency number.

There is help for you. Stay on the phone with the operator and wait for help to arrive.

Do not hesitate to call. Your life is extremely valuable, and people care about you.

Please reach out for help. Never act on your thoughts of suicide. Never.

Suicide is Never the Answer